“Do you think I’ve come to bring peace to the earth?
No, I tell you, but rather division!” (Luke 12:51)
It
seems every time I open my laptop and look at the news there’s some gossipy
story about Britain’s Royal Family. I have to confess, I suck that stuff down
like a toddler with a juice cup. There’s something in me that just loves the
castles and the scarlet uniforms and the Church of England and all that classy
stuff. But I also think it must suck being part of a clan whose family business
is representing the whole nation—especially when you can’t seem to get your act
together and every family spat and squabble gets splashed across the world
press for nitwits like me to read. I mean, I really hope the King and Harry
make up and the two princely brothers can shake hands someday. But it also
makes me think just how messy families are. If these pampered, palace-dwelling stiffs
can’t manage to get along, there shouldn’t be any shame for the rest of us when
we’re not on speaking terms with someone who swims in our gene pool.
In
the Gospel lesson for Pentecost 10, Year C in the Revised Common Lectionary
(Luke 12:49-56) Jesus warns us that he’s going to create some division within
families. He wasn’t kidding. It’s very possible in the world of this text to be
kicked out of your family if you decided you wanted to follow this rabbi from
Nazareth or any of his disciples. You could even get kicked out of your
community. Later, Christians who waffled and denied Jesus in order to save their
jobs or their lives in the face of official Roman persecution risked not being
allowed back into the church (even though the church was supposed to be
teaching love and forgiveness!).
Jesus
didn’t come with the purpose of screwing up family relations, but that has often
been the result. Obedience to the way of Christ is always going to get under
someone’s skin and, sinful, broken children that we are, relations are going to
get strained.
Of
course, there are good reasons for family discord, and not-so-good reasons. If
you happen to be a hereditary monarch and titular head of your nation’s
official church, you might take it amiss if your little brother has been hanging
out with a notorious pedophile and human trafficker. After all, such behavior
reflects rather poorly on both the church and the state. Most of us, however,
won’t find ourselves in that sort of situation, so it’s best we examine the
motives which lead us to slamming doors, blocking numbers, or banning others from
our social media.
I
would guess the most likely reason for a righteous exile from family life will
have something to do with substance abuse. There may be times when someone’s
drinking or drugging means you have to revoke their welcome for the sake of the
peace of the rest of the family. Life in Christ means we’re called to forgive sin
but not ignore it. I imagine it’s an incredibly painful thing to tell
your child or your sibling or your parent that their addiction has cost them
their place in the family and they will have to earn their way back.
Obedience
to Christ calls us to be witnesses to righteousness and speak truth when we’re
confronted with falsehoods. Nobody wants to cause trouble, but if hate speech
and ignorance aren’t challenged, they won’t go away on their own. In the First Lesson
(Jeremiah 23:23-29) the prophet calls out false prophets who claimed they’d had
mystical dreams promising Judah safety and prosperity. Jeremiah knew these guys
were liars and suck-ups who were telling the king what he wanted to hear. Jeremiah
felt it his responsibility to preach the word of God. This didn’t work out too
well for him. He was ostracized, ridiculed, and died in obscurity. But he did
what he was called to do.
Not
all of us are going to be Jeremiah, Dietrich Bonhoeffer, or Martin Luther King.
Nevertheless, when your cousin Dave starts using the “N word,” or starts
bashing LGBTQ+ people, or starts telling you the Rapture is coming as soon as
Israel conquers all of Jerusalem, you need to set him straight. And, to borrow
a quote attributed to Elie Weisel, we must never allow anyone to be humiliated
in our presence.
Families
are messy. So is standing up for the Gospel, but obedience to Christ carries
responsibilities. Sometimes it means bringing a little fire to your world.
Be
good to your family this week and keep on being a witness.