Family Gets Messy (Reflections on Pentecost 10, Year C 2025)

 

“Do you think I’ve come to bring peace to the earth? No, I tell you, but rather division!” (Luke 12:51)

It seems every time I open my laptop and look at the news there’s some gossipy story about Britain’s Royal Family. I have to confess, I suck that stuff down like a toddler with a juice cup. There’s something in me that just loves the castles and the scarlet uniforms and the Church of England and all that classy stuff. But I also think it must suck being part of a clan whose family business is representing the whole nation—especially when you can’t seem to get your act together and every family spat and squabble gets splashed across the world press for nitwits like me to read. I mean, I really hope the King and Harry make up and the two princely brothers can shake hands someday. But it also makes me think just how messy families are. If these pampered, palace-dwelling stiffs can’t manage to get along, there shouldn’t be any shame for the rest of us when we’re not on speaking terms with someone who swims in our gene pool.

In the Gospel lesson for Pentecost 10, Year C in the Revised Common Lectionary (Luke 12:49-56) Jesus warns us that he’s going to create some division within families. He wasn’t kidding. It’s very possible in the world of this text to be kicked out of your family if you decided you wanted to follow this rabbi from Nazareth or any of his disciples. You could even get kicked out of your community. Later, Christians who waffled and denied Jesus in order to save their jobs or their lives in the face of official Roman persecution risked not being allowed back into the church (even though the church was supposed to be teaching love and forgiveness!).

Jesus didn’t come with the purpose of screwing up family relations, but that has often been the result. Obedience to the way of Christ is always going to get under someone’s skin and, sinful, broken children that we are, relations are going to get strained.

Of course, there are good reasons for family discord, and not-so-good reasons. If you happen to be a hereditary monarch and titular head of your nation’s official church, you might take it amiss if your little brother has been hanging out with a notorious pedophile and human trafficker. After all, such behavior reflects rather poorly on both the church and the state. Most of us, however, won’t find ourselves in that sort of situation, so it’s best we examine the motives which lead us to slamming doors, blocking numbers, or banning others from our social media.

I would guess the most likely reason for a righteous exile from family life will have something to do with substance abuse. There may be times when someone’s drinking or drugging means you have to revoke their welcome for the sake of the peace of the rest of the family. Life in Christ means we’re called to forgive sin but not ignore it. I imagine it’s an incredibly painful thing to tell your child or your sibling or your parent that their addiction has cost them their place in the family and they will have to earn their way back.

Obedience to Christ calls us to be witnesses to righteousness and speak truth when we’re confronted with falsehoods. Nobody wants to cause trouble, but if hate speech and ignorance aren’t challenged, they won’t go away on their own. In the First Lesson (Jeremiah 23:23-29) the prophet calls out false prophets who claimed they’d had mystical dreams promising Judah safety and prosperity. Jeremiah knew these guys were liars and suck-ups who were telling the king what he wanted to hear. Jeremiah felt it his responsibility to preach the word of God. This didn’t work out too well for him. He was ostracized, ridiculed, and died in obscurity. But he did what he was called to do.

Not all of us are going to be Jeremiah, Dietrich Bonhoeffer, or Martin Luther King. Nevertheless, when your cousin Dave starts using the “N word,” or starts bashing LGBTQ+ people, or starts telling you the Rapture is coming as soon as Israel conquers all of Jerusalem, you need to set him straight. And, to borrow a quote attributed to Elie Weisel, we must never allow anyone to be humiliated in our presence.

Families are messy. So is standing up for the Gospel, but obedience to Christ carries responsibilities. Sometimes it means bringing a little fire to your world.

Be good to your family this week and keep on being a witness.