I guess you could say that it “was
her time.” Minerva, “Nerby” to her friends, passed away
peacefully about two weeks ago. She was 103 years of age.
Jen, Nerby's granddaughter and a
faithful member of Faith Lutheran, traveled to North Dakota for the
funeral. It was both a sad and joyful occasion. Yes, the retired P.E.
coach's family and friends would miss her, but they also rejoiced
over the free-spirited life Nerby had enjoyed.
Nerby just never seemed to be bothered
by anything. In more than a century of life, she had lived in a
blissful certainty that all her gushing joys and tearful sorrows were
safely in the hands of a loving and forgiving God.
Jen reported that Nerby's pastor had
visited the old women at her deathbed. Nerby had stopped eating
several days before and had lost the power of speech. She lay
peacefully with her eyes closed, waiting to be taken home to the arms
of Jesus. The pastor said some prayers. When he recited the Our
Father, Nerby opened her eyes, looked directly at him, and attempted
as best she could to mouth the words she knew so well. She was
faithful to the end.
Jen's story put me in mind of the death
of another dear soul, my friend the Reverend Howard Kuhnle. Pastor
Howard had served eleven parishes and celebrated over seventy years
in ordained ministry. He preached his last sermon on the occasion of
his one-hundredth birthday. He lived on for almost a year after that.
I visited him on his deathbed. A foam
mat had been placed on the floor next to him to prevent injury should
the centenarian roll out of bed. Just like Grandma Nerby, Howard lay
peacefully waiting for the end. I read some scripture and some
prayers. When I recited the Our Father, the old man's eyes remained
closed, but his arms shot straight up towards heaven, and he began to
recite the prayer in a voice Charlton Heston would've envied. Perhaps
he was imagining himself leading worship as he had for so many years.
I don't know, but I remember leaving Howard's side with a feeling of
tremendous peace.
Last December I traveled to Tacoma,
Washington to visit my sister Maryanne. She has been diagnosed with
stage four cancer and is now on hospice care. During our visit, she
recounted for me an exceptionally vivid dream she had had just before
her doctors recommended she cease aggressive treatment for her
disease.
Maryanne told me that she had imagined
herself in heaven being greeted by our earthly (not to be confused
with our heavenly) father.
Our dad carried under his arm our family dog, Pepe. Pepe had been a
shaggy miniature French poodle. Dad loved this dog, and Pepe
worshiped him with the slavish devotion of which only a dog is
capable.
My sister recounted
that, in her dream, she had called out, “Pepe!”
Our
father, not one to overlook the importance of an occasion,
immediately scolded her. “Do you know what has happened to you?”
he asked her. “Do you know where
you are?”
“Oh,
yes,” my sister told him. “I've died and this is heaven.”
“And you're excited about a dog..?” he asked.
“And you're excited about a dog..?” he asked.
“Of
course!” she said. “Because if he's
up here, then everybody's
up here!”
I asked my sister
if she was afraid of what was to come.
“Not in the
least,” she said. “I know where I'm going.”
What beautiful
lives the saints live!
In
Matthew's Easter gospel, the angel of the Lord tells the women
seeking the body of Jesus at the tomb, “He has been raised from the
dead, and indeed he is going ahead of you to Galilee.” (Matthew 28:
7) I've always loved this verse. “He is going ahead of you.”
These words bring me comfort. Jesus has entered into the slop of this
life, dealt with all the pain of it, and returned to the place from
which he began. He's gone ahead of us, and there is no place in this
life—be it physical pain, loss, betrayal, loneliness, hunger,
helplessness, need, despair, or death—where Jesus has not already
been.
And today, we
celebrate that he has conquered it all.
Now, I'm not one
for proclaiming a theology of glory, but for this one day out of the
year I don't see the harm of it. The world did every sick, cruel
thing it could think to do to Jesus, and yet he is still Lord. The
resurrection of Jesus is the promise of the everlasting nature of our
own souls. Saint Paul taught:
“For if we have been united
with him in a death like his, we will certainly be united with him in
a resurrection like his.” (Romans
6:5)
Nerby, Howard, and Maryanne all lived their lives in this certainty.
Their faith is courage in the face of death because of their
assurance of victory everlasting in Jesus.
I
don't know what Easter Sunday means to you, but to me the empty tomb
is a reminder that all the mistakes of my earthly life and all of
their consequences are but blinks in God's eye. We can live as people
already resurrected, because all
the sin and pain and chaos of this world which cause us so much grief
and worry now have
already been vanquished in God's time—even if we sometimes forget
this.
Happy Easter, dear friends. May today be for you but one day in the
everlasting joy of immortality.
Christ is risen! Alleluia!
PS-As all
Christian celebrate this holiest of days, let's raise a prayer that
we may all celebrate together some day around the table of the Lord.
Lutherans and Roman Catholics both believe that Jesus is with us in
the bread and wine of Holy Communion. If you believe this too, please
sign my petition to bring both denominations back to the table. It's
been almost 500 years. Let's bury the hatched! Just click here.
On behalf of my mother: Thank you Pastor Owen for your kind words about my mother Minerva (Nerby) Franek. Your kind words truely gave me the peace and comfort I needed as I was grieving. Alleluia, Christ is Risen!
ReplyDeleteDiane Wilson